I stumbled upon this article and it's pretty depressing. It claims losing a sibling is linked to premature death. Sure when my brother passed I felt like part of my soul went with him and I didn’t see much reason to live, but seeing something like this is still a shock.
I’m sure none of us want to see a news article telling us that our already traumatic lives will be short lived. I want to de-bunk this article, so stretch, relax and get ready for a long life ahead. First of all news.com.au isn’t the most credible source, as Tim Burrows said; when he reads new.com.au he often feels like ‘’bashing my head on the desk” and man, I felt that way too after trying to read the first six lines of the story. I still don’t really understand the findings of this Danish study that has dammed us all to death so I don’t think we need to stress. The rest of the story explains how bereaved siblings feel a magnitude of grief that can cause mental health issues. No shit, but we are finally seeing proof that bereaved siblings need more support. The abrupt headline is really just click bait, we already know we feel overlooked and isolated however it encourages people to connect us with support services. I absolutely agree, if I didn’t have support I would be in a bad place mentally, I was, even with supportive people in my life. It is SO important to find support; parents are often not helpful as they are grieving too. I found friends helpful, but realised I needed to reach out first as they didn’t want to force their support on me. As hard at it seems, don’t be afraid to ask for help, (clichI stumbled upon this article and it's pretty depressing. It claims losing a sibling is linked to premature death. Sure when my brother passed I felt like part of my soul went with him and I didn’t see much reason to live, but seeing something like this is still a shock. I’m sure none of us want to see a news article telling us that our already traumatic lives will be short lived. I want to de-bunk this article, so stretch, relax and get ready for a long life ahead. First of all news.com.au isn’t the most credible source, as Tim Burrows said; when he reads new.com.au he often feels like ‘’bashing my head on the desk” and man, I felt that way too after trying to read the first six lines of the story. I still don’t really understand the findings of this Danish study that has dammed us all to death so I don’t think we need to stress. The rest of the story explains how bereaved siblings feel a magnitude of grief that can cause mental health issues. No shit, but we are finally seeing proof that bereaved siblings need more support. The abrupt headline is really just click bait, we already know we feel overlooked and isolated however it encourages people to connect us with support services. I absolutely agree, if I didn’t have support I would be in a bad place mentally, I was, even with supportive people in my life. It is SO important to find support; parents are often not helpful as they are grieving too. I found friends helpful, but realised I needed to reach out as they didn’t want to force their support on me. As hard at it seems, don’t be afraid to ask for help, (cliche in know), the perspective of others helps. Sometimes I felt like nobody understood my pain, so I read, hung out with my pets, walked, laid out in the grass and napped (vitamin D does wonders), I ate comfort food and did whatever the hell I wanted to do that would avoid me falling into more of a depressed state. Stuff the article, we are here for as long as we can be, we just have to make sure we do whatever we can to keep wanting to be here. (cliché I know), the perspective of others helps. Sometimes I felt like nobody understood my pain, so I read, hung out with my pets, walked, laid out in the grass and napped (vitamin D does wonders), I ate comfort food and did whatever the hell I wanted to do that would avoid me falling into more of a depressed state. Stuff the article, we are here for as long as we can be, we just have to make sure we do whatever we can to keep wanting to be here.
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